Synergy is an umbrella term for relaxed non-goal oriented sex that emphasizes intimacy-building signals (bonding behaviors). Such a broad description obviously encompasses many different experiences, all of which are unique. Here is one man’s “morning after” description:

First time with [this] style sex last night. Completely blown away. For one, it lasted for an hour and a half. I have never had sex for so long in my life (I’m 25, male). Everything was extremely slow, and pretty soon we were both in a state of ‘intoxication’ as a result of being so deliberate and methodical with our bodies. We began to feel much more of every little sensation that comes with contact; brushing ankles together felt intense, I grabbed her hand and she felt chills down her whole body, the whole experience was like this.

We both came away from that experience astonished. [This approach] changes my entire perception of sex. Many of the insecurities that people typically feel with sex, such as not being “good” at it, not having enough experience or whatever insecurity that can be performance-based, [this approach] dispels all of that. Everyone is good at cuddling. Everyone is good at moving so slowly that every single thrust, spread out [over] minutes, is so incredibly powerful, that there is no need for worry about how you will perform. There is no pressure. Even when my erection was less strong than it normally was, it didn’t matter, our hands were so charged that every caress had the impact a deep thrust would have had.

… I can’t see myself having “normal” orgasm-based sex ever again. It’s just not as good as karezza [one of the labels for Synergy-style sex]. I only wish I had discovered this before [my ex-girlfriend and I] broke up. Sexual performance anxieties were a central issue for her, as well as the inability to orgasm from sex. If I had only known that this was possible, we would have transcended those insecurities and been able to make love instead of having sex. That is really what is at stake in our sex lives when we decide to ignore [this] concept: the difference between having sex and making love. … Thank you, thank you, thank you.

tl;dr: tried karezza, entered altered state, will never go back to the old way

Synergy refers to a practice for couples. If you’re not currently in a relationship, don’t overlook this page during your browsing.

The Synergy Explorers website emphasizes methods for sustaining harmony between partners so that they can experience the enhanced creativity and other benefits that follow from the careful use of sex. Although a short book about the practice is being prepared, its content (plus a lot more) is available by browsing this website’s FAQs and blogs.

This website is an open invitation to explore and share discoveries about sexual mystery traditions and relevant modern science findings. Some of the traditions that taught elements of Synergy go by labels such as Taoist lovemaking, ‘white’ tantra, karezza, controlled intercourse, etc. See Traditions for source materials.

Note: This site does not emphasize pursuit of spiritual orgasm, sex magick, forcing a kundalini awakening, or becoming multi-orgasmic, although explorers who have experienced such effects may discuss them in our forum. Other interested explorers are also welcome, but our focus here is couples who want to build a stable base on which expansive experiences can be safely, sensually explored.

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